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My 10-year-old and I faced our fears together

I recently took the boys on a Mom and Sons weekend away. We are a crazy yet fun threesome who love new experiences. Let’s just say we are a bucket list family who plan to bring you many more adventures. So, off we headed to the quaint little town of Cullinan, but we were not in search of diamonds. We were in search of adventure and exploration.

You can read more about our entire weekend away to Cullinan on my blog post Sho’t Left to a little town called Cullinan, but now I’m going to share the decision we made to face our fears.

Ashton, my 14-year-old is an adrenaline junkie who doesn’t fear much. He’s a thrill seeker who’s ever-ready to try the most daring thing out there. Skylar on the other hand, (my little baby … okay, not so little, as he is 10-years-old), is afraid of almost everything. In fact, Sky and I are a lot alike in this respect, but we decided a few years ago, that every adventure requires that we challenge ourselves to step outside our comfort zones.

We headed to Adventure Zone Cullinan and signed up for Ziplining. Ziplining, when 2 of the 3 of us are terrified of heights! How incredibly brave are we ??

Anyways, we arrived and were suited up with safety harnesses, helmets and gloves. As a person who works in the Quality and Safety environment on a daily basis, I asked the necessary questions like :-

  • When last were the harnesses load checked
  • What were the weight limitations? (apparently the straps can carry the weight of a bakkie, so I was good)
  • What if we got stuck in the middle? (my biggest fear)
  • Why was it so windy?

All my questions were answered without any hesitation during the safety briefing. Our group then climbed onto a truck and we made our way to the first zipline. At this point, I thought I had the option to choose the zipline of my choice, but I was wrong. Four ziplines formed part of the adventure and it was an “all in” commitment that was required. I had already paid, so there was no turning back. Oh, and talking about paying … we made use of the Entertainer App’s buy 1 get 1 free deal for the Adventure Zone. Yay, for saving money on a weekend away.

As we approached the first tower it dawned on me that I was adventuring alone with the boys. I was faced with choices of who would go first, was the line secure, what if Sky decided to bail at the last-minute. Was I being paranoid, over-protective or just being a mom whose instincts naturally kicked in??

I eventually calmed down and sent Ashton on his way, who faced his first zipline without any hesitation. Then it was Sky’s turn, but he panicked the moment he set foot onto the platform. He started hyperventilating and wanted to cry. He insisted that I go first, but how could I go first and leave him behind. Chances are he would panic again and derail the process for everyone. So with a stern mom-voice and darting eyes we got him secured onto the line. He looked at me and begged to get off. The guide then looked at me wanting a decision to made …. and then my mom instincts to protect and nurture disappeared for a second. A nod of the head gave our guide the go ahead to let him go. My heart sank for a split second as there was complete silence as he was pushed on his way, and then I heard a scream of exhilaration. He was good and made it safely to the other side without getting stuck along the way.

I was relieved but now it was my turn. I freaked out and I couldn’t do it. I was standing on the platform losing my mind and the guide said to me, “Your kids just did this. There’s no way you are going to bail”. I was honestly terrified, but I had no choice. I guess the saying “Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you” applied. As my foot left the platform I felt my heart rate increase as my body temperature rose. I’m very sure I held my breath for a few seconds, but before I knew it I was enjoying the zipline. It was pretty damn amazing and the view was incredible. As I reached the boys, their faces were beaming and they were pumped. They were so happy and thoroughly enjoyed the first zipline. They are always inpressed and proud when I try out activities with them.

Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. – Charles Swindoll

We continued onto the next 3 ziplines. The speeds varied on each zipline and weirdly enough the fastest one was my favourite. I was utterly relieved that we chose to go through with the experience and face our fears. Had we not have pushed ourselves, we would have missed out on an amazing experience.

I’m the kind of mom who doesn’t mollycoddle her kids. It’s a tough world out there and I strongly believe that it’s my duty to challenge my kids; to push them to function and think in situations of difficulty and uncomfortableness. It is my duty as a parent to use every opportunity possible to prepare them for life as an adult. I want them to have inquirying minds and souls. I want them to live with adventure in their hearts and an appreciation for the beauty that exists in the simple pleasures life has to offer.

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3 Comments

  1. It’s great when you conquer a fear. I felt such a sense of achievement when I bungee jumped in Vic Falls, something I never imagined I would do cos of my fear of heights. But I did! I love that you and your sons have experienced this together – such a wonderful sign of strength, support and courage – some of the things that build a family bond ❤️

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