2020 My year of selfishness is loading …

New decade, new year but definitely not a new me. More like the same me, but with more direction and better priorities. 2020 my year of selfishness is loading and I encourage you to follow in my footsteps. Here’s why …

It’s human nature that we tend to prioritise everyone else but ourselves and when we do prioritise ourselves we feel guilty. We seriously shouldn’t neglect ourselves and our health to avoid feeling selfish. Selfishness isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can in fact be a good thing when being selfish means prioritising our emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Many people who focus entirely on give, give, give end up overwhelmed, fatigued, and stressed.

Here’s steps to embracing your year of selfishness

Recognise that you don’t prioritise yourself and your needs. 

You think taking care of yourself means the occasional chance to spend a few minutes to yourself. Honestly you deserve so much more and if you are selfish about satisfying your needs you will better serve those you love. You need to be your biggest cheerleader and learn to do right by yourself.

Let the past go.

What’s in the past, is in the past and it’s time to let go. After all, you can’t change anything by constantly focusing on the past, as it prevents you from moving forward. See the past as experience and learn from it, making adjustments to improve your life. Move on sister, cause there’s no time like the present.

Fit like mummy 2020

Determine your needs, wants and desires. 

There’s no wrong or right answer to this, but the fact remains that you have needs, wants and desires. Make a list of what they are, prioritise them and then go get it. Don’t judge yourself, overthink or feel the need to justify any of it. Be selfish and do what makes you happier, calmer and more content.

Prioritise your “ME TIME”

The importance of me time is seriously underestimated especially when it comes to our health. We need to be cognisant of the fact that one cannot pour from an empty cup. “ME TIME” doesn’t have to be extravagant, it can be a few minutes in your day. Make a definite point about being selfish about the time used to invest in yourself and your well-being. Schedule this time in your diary if you must, but just do it.

You need a POA

Many of us use the hustle and bustle of our daily lives as an excuse not to be selfish about our needs. The truth is, that’s a “BS” excuse. So drop the excuses and take action. There are ways to compromise, but it does require a change in mindset. The more your practice this the easier it will become.

Stop worrying about what others think

The very definition of selfishness means you don’t worry about how your behaviour affects others. This might be your biggest obstacle, but the fact remains that you need to stop worrying what others think. At the end of the day, you have to live with you. Trust yourself. No one has to tell you when it’s right. Freedom really comes when you stop thinking what others think.

Now it’s time to drop the guilt and excuses. Now go forth and fearlessly embrace owning “2020 my year of selfishness“. Take up space, manifest your true power and own life.


  1. That is so True Tash, hence I decided as well to be selfish because I realised I come first.. What I take on this is that we can only take care of. Our loved ones when we are healthy and happier. In flight we learn that in case of emergency you have to put your mask first before you assist others.. Same principles apply your first and the rest will follow.

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      Exactly and I love the anology

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      Not let own 2020 baby

  2. Oh my goodness thank you so much for this. It really is so true. I needed to hear this because I always think what other people think of me and it really gives me low self esteem. But ever since I’m reading your blogs or Instagram stories I’m feeling hopeful for the future ❤️🤗🙏

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